Don’t Let The Unexpected Cripple You

We organize all our lives in a safe environment as if we had activated the autopilot mode, until one day, we are confronted with these  unforeseen events which force us to leave our comfort zone. We then have no choice but to deactivate the autopilot to take control ourselves. 

But why are we faced with these unexpected events? Are they the result of chance or do they happen for a specific reason?
These questions give way to important reflections, which can allow us to make peace with these periods of life when everything seems to be crumbling around us.

How to interpret these unforeseen events?

Depending on the way we look at our situations, we can for example see the unforeseen events of life as simple random events having no particular meaning.  In this case, our role would be to eliminate the obstacles that stand in our way to restore the lost balance, and the unforeseen would then be simple difficulties or threats against which we would have to fight in a hostile universe.

We can also see the unforeseen as “masters” obeying a plan that is beyond us, the purpose of which would be to help us grow, learn and evolve.  Even if we decide to take a random and meaningless look at these unforeseen events, we can also be reactive, without however reflecting on the events occurring in our private sphere, but letting our ego respond to automatic patterns of behavior, such as conflict. , drama, worry, depression and angst.

We can easily deduce that this reactivity in turn affects the reactive zones of people around us, which then causes a chaotic chain reaction, which some call  karma . On the other hand, if we took a meaningful look at the unforeseen, we would no longer see them as intruders but rather as unexpected but well-intentioned visitors, who initially surprise and disturb us, even if in our heart of hearts. we know we can trust them.

These looks that we wear have both a calming and moving effect, as we stop being reactive to calm down and become attentive students, eager to learn about ourselves and our possibilities of turning dark situations into situations. clear and limpid. To do this, we replace our reactive patterns with new creative strategies, to face events through love, peace and union.

Tips for not being paralyzed in the face of unforeseen events

Our natural tendency to react requires a certain attention not to plunge into melodrama and chaos, because with the snap of a finger the unforeseen can take the form of a nightmare.

Here are some tips for getting out of the darkness of the unexpected:

• Take a deep breath:  we have said this to you many times before, but it is a technique that works. Thanks to biofeedback, a soothing message is sent to the brain and has repercussions throughout our body. It also helps limit and prevent the impulsiveness and responsiveness that our automatic driving patterns use to create trouble.

• Ask yourself what is the meaning of this unforeseen event. To do this, analyze the impact it has on you, on what aspect of your life and for what reason.

• Observe your mind:  what internal dialogue is activated in the face of this situation: self-criticism? judgment towards others? fear ? Then realize that your thoughts and your emotions are not anchored in your nature, they arise in the image of the small fleeting clouds which come to temporarily hide the sun. Never forget that you are the light, close your eyes and connect with that light.

• Accept the unexpected as it is, without reacting passively, but adopting the attitude of a diligent student, willing to learn about yourself and react accordingly in a proactive and calm manner.

In times of unforeseen circumstances, we have the power to transform the world simply by letting our nature, which is light and wisdom shine, by placing ourselves with humility at the service of this great lesson that is life, for our personal good and that of us. others.