There Are Relationships That Waste Our Time

There are people who waste our time, very precious time that we only appreciate at critical moments in our lives. Losing time is wasting something that will never come back.

Each of us has, on average, about 27,000 days to live. A third of that number is dreams and the first years of life so we don’t remember.

Why do we get involved in relationships that waste our time? Why do we share minutes, days, even years, with people who do not contribute to our happiness? Answering this question is extremely complex, especially since each personal story is unique.

To waste time with someone is to suffer

There are people who are wasting your time now, but who may have filled it with joy one day. It is essential to keep in mind that life is characterized by change : it is made cycles and you have to accept that.

Even though we often want to keep up appearances, we can’t cheat our feelings. When frustration and disappointment sticks out in a relationship, it’s not a good sign.

Relationships require maintenance, but there is a difference between maintaining a good relationship and trying to force a bad one that doesn’t make much sense anymore. When you’re already fundamentally incompatible with someone, you risk wasting too much valuable time.

Every meeting has an impact. Some will bring out the best in you, others the worst, and most will leave you indifferent. The important thing is that it doesn’t limit your ideas about relationships and that you keep your heart open.

This relationship didn’t always waste my time

If there’s anything complicated about human relationships, it’s knowing when it’s time to do without someone. Stop wasting time with relationships that don’t make sense of your existence.

You know you’ve wasted time with someone when you don’t miss them… When the good times don’t appear in your head without that dark cloud associated with the feeling of failure and disappointment. Losing time in love is sharing your life with someone you no longer admire or appreciate.

Warning signs indicating deterioration

A deteriorating relationship is very  easy to spot, but very difficult to deal with. How many times have you done something with someone without envy? This is a clear sign that something is wrong.

How, then, to distance himself secretly without destroying the relationship? It is difficult, but necessary. Sometimes just wanting to do it makes us feel guilty instantly.

Signals that something is wrong

There are objective indicators that should make you think and make a decision. Here are some clear signals:

• Your presence seems to annoy the other person. The way you express yourself, give your opinion or even eat is a nuisance. You stop being comfortable.
• She questions you in front of acquaintances. She talks about your personal issues, putting you in the crosshairs of several people who shouldn’t be involved in this conversation of yours.
• You feel mistrust instead of calm when you are not with her, you feel that she is talking about you and not in a good way.

• She doesn’t advise you, she doesn’t comfort you. She evaluates you, ridicules you or even “scolds” you for anything.
• None of your ideas sound good.
• There are no arguments, no anger, but the atmosphere is charged like a grenade about to explode.
• His gaze is neither soft nor reassuring. Now she’s just looking at you, hoping to get something. It is a blank and accusing gaze. You can’t see anything else in his eyes.
• In short, you no longer see any clarity there. You only see gray clouds that are entering you more and more and you feel sad, stressed and betrayed.

All of these aspects are just a sign that you are wasting time with this person. Whether it’s a friend, cousin, sister, partner or mother.

Depending on the degree of the relationship, the emotional tear will be greater or less. The longer you wait, the more painful it will be.

People will come and occupy this space

After suffering, a day will come someone, a person with whom you will feel that your life is being rebuilt. This person can be a friend, colleague or partner.

Then you will know that you are not wasting time when you express your opinions freely … When happiness floods your face or when you solve your problems together without hard feelings.

Do not give up this opportunity because we all have this right. If you’ve “wasted time” with someone, you’ve won if you managed to end it. Now, the most beautiful thing remains to be done: to find yourself again by loving yourself.

Our thoughts

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