Forget The Idea Of letting Go At All Costs
Erase from your mind the idea that you will one day be able to make everything that torments you go away, for it makes you even more nervous that you will not succeed.
Don’t feel guilty and don’t think that you won’t be able to cope with your emotions. Realize that you are fighting against yourself.
If you are successful in winning the battle against your emotions, you will win but you will also lose and this is something you cannot afford.
That is to say, if you succeed in violently reaching what you want to get rid of, it will inevitably cause pain in you.
Let your emotions teach you things and don’t try to lock them up constantly. If you accept yourself, win or lose, you will win.
Don’t torture yourself, every feeling has its moment
Don’t torture yourself thinking you have to let go. For example, sometimes we can’t help but like someone who we would say is toxic.
Sometimes we have reasons for wanting something that hurt us to continue, or we just can’t find good reasons to leave. We may not even be able to leave when everything is in our favor.
Whatever your situation, remember that everyone needs time to feel something and that we all feel differently.
Do not be afraid of yourself, not letting go is not a sign of fragility but a way of learning to take the time necessary not to dramatize a situation.
Only people who get lost can find themselves
It’s natural that we want what hurts us to come out of our lives, but we are wrong when we don’t listen to all that each experience brings us.
If listening and acceptance are not present, “letting go” will only be a theoretical pretext.
Sometimes we are not able to “let go” of what is hurting us. This distresses us even more and as a result we reject all the emotional work that we are trying to do, because we end up thinking that we will never be able to live fully.
To let go all of a sudden means to uproot oneself, and such violent movements always hurt.
We need to take the time to take our breaths and find an air bubble that is not contaminated.
Embrace our angels and demons
When we let go, we learn to let die what we thought we knew, in order to be reconciled with our image in the mirror.
We realize that every emotion and feeling is adorable little things that should be treated with respect and care.
Don’t overwhelm yourself and forget yourself, be careful and weigh the pros and cons of each situation. Give your feelings a place within you where they can breathe and feel safe.
Express, count to three and feel. Your emotions are not a punishment or something you have to give up.
If you try to lock them up, their mere presence will make you anxious, and you will feel anxious and overwhelmed by them.
Think that everything that is in your surroundings, you owe it to yourself and to the filters through which you pass your reality. Unclog your emotions and don’t try to calm them down.
In general, when your attitude is one of listening, you are successful in calming yourself down and communicating with yourself.
Images by Benjamin Lacombe and Nicoleta Ceccoli
