The Relationship Between Isolation And Victimization
Victimization, understood in the sense of disguise that allows us to draw attention to the helplessness and evil that we contain, is very damaging. In most cases, this becomes a strategy to not be responsible for what is going on in our life. At the end of the day, we’re talking about a way to avoid maturity.
Perhaps you recognize some of your relatives there. They tended to isolate themselves, to be alone and to feel uncomfortable. Is there a relationship between isolation and victimization?
When a situation is beyond us, it is normal to feel lost and unable to control what is happening to us.
The unease that this generates can make us feel victims of what has happened. However, after a few hours or days, we need to be able to push this feeling away. Otherwise, we run the risk of adopting certain unhealthy habits, of which isolation is a part.
Isolation is a form of victimization
When we talk about isolation, we are talking about a voluntary act. A person who isolates himself is a person who decides to take refuge in his home or not to spend time with his friends, for various personal reasons. In this type of situation, this person often tends to deceive himself. She believes that others leave her behind, when in reality it is she who avoids social commitments.
People who isolate themselves need to feel that they are important to someone, that if they move away, the other will seek them out. It is then that they feel alone without really being so.
Isolation reinforces the feeling of victimization, and thus prevents taking responsibility for what happens. However, which influence is the greatest? That of isolation over victimization, or that of victimization over isolation?
In reality, isolation and victimization feed back into each other. If we isolate ourselves, most likely we will end up feeling victimized by what is happening to us. If we feel like victims, we will be better able to isolate ourselves from others.
Why do we distance ourselves from others?
While isolation is understood to be a matter of being locked away and refusing to see anyone, the truth is, it goes much further. Here are some of the reasons we isolate ourselves, thus fostering feelings of victimization:
- Isolation from others to feel bad: even if it seems absurd, if we are victims, we will isolate ourselves to reinforce the feeling that no one loves us, that everyone ignores us, that we are worth nothing.
- Find a physical and emotional distance: does to be locked home or reject certain undertakings is a way not to get in touch with other people. Seeing how they carry on with their lives and respect what we wanted, namely to give us space, only intensifies the feeling of victimization.
- Desire to attract attention: Isolation and victimization can be strategies used to capture the attention of others. However, generally this does not work, or if it does work, people who try to approach will always be rejected.
The comfort zone
One of the reasons it is so difficult for us to step out of the victim role that we have adopted is that our comfort zone is right there. We complain, but we do nothing to change the situation we are in.
As Maximiliano Hernández Marcos says , “ the rise of victims in recent decades shows that this is not a short-term social trend, but a dominant mentality”. If the situation is so serious, what can we do about it?
To do the first step
To get out of isolation and victimization, it is very important to start adopting certain measures. It is also strongly recommended to seek professional support. It will provide us with the tools to get out of this hole that we have immersed ourselves in and that we believe we will not be able to get out of.
The first step is the most difficult to give, but the most precious. To begin with, we need to get rid of anything that makes us feel like victims. To get it, a good idea is to review the beliefs we have, question them and forget those that only bring us pain and suffering.
After that, it’s time to open up a space for novelty (at the beginning it can cost us dearly). The comfort zone can become very attractive and will always make us think that “we don’t want to” or that “we are very tired” or that “we will not feel comfortable”. However, the trips to the other side are worth it.
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