Those Behaviors That Keep You In Unhappy Relationships

Dating and love isn’t just about giving a box of chocolates on Valentine’s Day, and looking after your partner once in a while.

A fulfilling relationship should make you a better, happier, and healthier person.

To achieve this, you need to establish good communication, establish mutual respect and develop good couple habits.

When communication, respect and good habits don’t exist, then unhappy relationships arise. 

We often stay in these types of relationships because of certain behaviors, which we are going to tell you about today.

Not paying attention to your intuition

Has your little inner voice been telling you for a while that your partner isn’t who you think you are?

It is very common that at the beginning of a relationship, everything seems perfect down to the smallest detail. It is an important part of the attraction we feel towards a person: we minimize their flaws and we maximize their qualities.

Problems arise when certain unhealthy behaviors arise, such as lies, strange attitudes and excessive jealousy.

If you find yourself in any of these situations, disengage immediately, or you will fall into an unhealthy relationship, which will be difficult for you to extricate yourself from.

Analyze the situation. If you find that you are indeed immersing yourself in these damaging behaviors, think about the different opportunities available to you.

Most of the time, you can seek outside help to put an end to this unhappy relationship, and thus avoid many future disappointments.

Having the anguish of being in a relationship

Your family certainly asks you: “But when are you going to get married?”. Your loved ones may be concerned about your single situation, regardless of your age or your wishes.

It is something very common, and you have to learn how to fight it. Above all, you should not make this subject an obsession.

Many unhappy relationships arise from this concern. Women, like men, may be tempted to form a couple to avoid being constantly questioned on the subject.

As the engagement approaches, the pressure from loved ones around the marriage becomes more and more important. Most people end up giving in and getting married, even though they are in an unsatisfying relationship.

The best thing to do is not to worry about this outside pressure. If you don’t feel ready, just explain it to people who ask you questions.

Everyone moves at their own pace, and we have to learn to respect that.

Comply with the wishes of society

This behavior can be related to the previous one, but they do not necessarily go hand in hand.

These include situations in which we stay in a relationship with a person only to avoid asking the right questions, but without genuinely loving them.

We may like him, but we don’t really like him, or some of his behaviors seem totally intolerable to us.

On the other hand, we prefer to keep what we have on hand, which is easy, rather than having to endure the social pressure that would arise from a breakup.

This situation can also arise when there is no direct external pressure. Perhaps your biggest dream is to get married and have children, so that you can start a stable family.

If this is your case, you’ll settle down with the first person who shares more or less the same goals as you, but there’s a good chance that person won’t meet all of your expectations.

Yet you are going to take what she gives you, without asking for more, just to conform to your dreams of family and stability.

As you can imagine, this can only lead to unhappy relationships. After a few years, many problems will enamel the couple and make them implode.

How to change these behaviors

We all have intuition, even if we don’t always listen to it. However, following her remains the best way to avoid plunging into an unsatisfying relationship. You just have to listen to what your feelings are telling you.

We all try to avoid pain and suffering. This is quite normal.

We can have two behaviors in the face of unhappy relationships: deciding to get out of it, or convincing ourselves that all is well.

To keep a healthy life, we recommend that you leave these kinds of relationships behind.

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